goodnite...
metafilter is not so much my site, because~? no sadness there~. or sth. -main- as my del tag would have it. ah there: "the ironic middle" -novella Jane Smiley, re marriage: "she wanted to be tragic and was only petulant... marriage>ironic middle."
to: compare Barbelith.
(which I've seen via plasticbag: 'my community'. I at least like the look better, I think...