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You don't have to be a jerk to get women, that's just an excuse. You do have to be assertive and sexual, though/ The other thing is to avoid relationships with women who subscribe to a friendship/lover dichotomy.. I don't believe in the no-win scenario. If you hit it off with someone, all of these iron-clad rules are off.
-Don't be the "seemingly disinterested but compassionate" shoulder to cry on. Not to people you have the hots for... nobody want's that person. Frankly - it's wimpy, passive-aggressive and possibly a little creepy.
-The whole "nice guys finish last" theory is crap. Women can sense needy, clingy guys at 50 paces and I'm guessing that's your problem.
-Realize that when women go for guys who you perceive as "jerks," part of the appeal is that the jerk knows what he wants, is owning his sexuality, and is making his intentions towards a woman clear even at the risk of rejection.
-Not all of us can be George Clooney, so we find other ways to be sexy. Be direct, honest and assertive. There's a difference between that and being a jerk. Stop yourself from being the emotional bottom in any relationship. Be confident (and if you can't, learn to fake it like most every other guy).
-Roger Ebert said in a review of the dreadful movie Just Friends "When a girl says she likes you as a friend, what she means is: Rather than have sex with you, I would prefer to lose you as a friend." When I first read it I thought it was surprisingly cynical for a man who declared Babe: Pig in the City to be the best movie of 1998. Now I think he's probably right.

-After going through the same thing and eventually getting over it, I found someone else. And I took some advice I read here on the green and gave myself completely to sweeping romanticism completely. I didn't mask my attraction. I didn't try to be just her friend at all. ..I got the girl. //-I also gave my self to jarring redundancy, as well. hee.
- A friend of mine recently fell in love with a platonic friend, who, it turns out, had been pining for her forever. They are very happy. I hate them.The point being, it can happen. And I would imagine those are the best relationships, given that they begin with friendship. ~hm, I dunno.

ok.can delete dlcs mark now. done.