# The symmetry thesis: "A given person likes you as much as you like him or her". [Marginal Revolution] "Unilateral crushes are possible and indeed common, although with repeated contact they usually collapse into symmetry, one way or the other."

well... yes collapses into mutuality, maybe so. in real lived relation. but so much is fantasy and fantasy is hardly separable from real lived relation ~ "he was in my dream, but then, I was in his dream too" ~ often not.

this may be just what separates the fantasy (in thought - what articulates fantasy over agnst the real): it needn't be mutual, it's yours, it isn't shared.

He was part of my dream, of course - but then I was part of his dream too Lewis Carroll Quotes

So, if I dream I have you, I have you, For all our joys are but fantastical; ... John Donne - Elegy X : The Dream

I love a dream of love I once had, I love you, and I love this patch of earth." "And which do you love best?" "The dream."

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So, if I dream I have you, I have you, For all our joys are but fantastical;
... John Donne - Elegy X : The Dream Posted by m at 6:15 PM

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symmetry thesis is of an awfully (but probably happy) down-to-earth mind.
rather different from a sense that transference ~as they call it~ is pervasive
and fortune is the coincidence of your transference and mine.

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