Hi, me-10-years-ago. I've been hoping to run into you.You have everything you've always wanted, but you're still not happy? Winnicott ~ false self? Time to re-evaluate what you want. Some folks call it a mid-life crisis, but that seems rather reductive. sure.
I sort of cruised through my first 30 years, not ever really deciding what to do, just taking whatever came along. Unfortunately, that included the woman I was married to. Sure, we basically got a long, and we more-or-less liked doing the same things, but I never really chose to be with her. It just sort of happened. After 10 years of marriage, I realized I never really liked her that much, and I left. Sure, it was a bit more complicated than that, but that’s the gist.Since then, I’ve taken a lot more risks, made a lot more deliberate decisions to go after what I really wanted. I’ve changed and altered and re-evaluated and shifted what I wanted during that time, but I’ve ended up at a pretty good place. I’m married again (to someone else, natch), I have an almost completely different circle of friends (who I do see a lot), have gotten a home and a car and a good job and all that, and am, for maybe the first time in my life, happy with where I am.You say you’ve been to a psychologist. You should consider going to another one, one who will help you figure things out. If you’re in the DC area, I can suggest one. huh, in DC huh. The good news is that you’re doing this early—a lot of folks don’t do the mid-life crisis thing until much later in life, and lose a lot more time. righto. posted by MrMoonPie at 11:15 AM

and here's what seals the deal that I am with MrMoon on this:
I don't want to poo-poo what everyone else has said about religion, taking up a hobby, studying philosophy, volunteering, etc., but they did not work for me. They might work for you, and, if they do, great. But I tried all of that, including the stuff about how I should just learn to accept that what I had was, in fact, as good as I could expect life to be. I'm actually less active in such things than I was when I was 30, mainly because I'm not looking to avoid my otherwise bleak existence or fill any voids. I'm now happy with who I am and what I have, and I don't need the philosophy, religion, hobbies, walks in the woods, etc. Again, though, try them first--making a small change here and there will be much easier than making the sort of radical change I did. But, please, do whatever you need to so that you aren't here 10 years from now asking the same question. When I was 30, contemplating turning my life upside down, that's what kept me from being complacent. I turned 40 last month, and my only wish was that I'm as happy at 80 as I am now.posted by MrMoonPie at 12:25 PM

MrMoonPie! =blogspot. post re early august DC meet-up. omiewise not involved?