The most fundamental need is to be loved and to have nourishing relationships. I don't want to assume anything about you but my bet would be that it is a very real need in you too. I accept it when a real need in me is causing me to act in a certain way and I accept that it is ok for the need to be there. I know I won't die without nourishing relationships and that I can get on with life without love, but I also know that another quality enters my life when I have that nourishment. loveoftruth.org/relationship

intimacy When you feel at ease with someone, and are just there with that person, it does have a special quality. If you see yourself in that situation you can see the scripts trying to get in, being led by thoughts like, 'What do I do now?' But safety in not knowing is the most delicate and rewarding one. Is there anything more tender than being in the present with your friends? It is a bit scary.

who is Ian Wolstenholme Ian is an enlightened spiritual visionary, whose work is to support people to experience a greater depth within themselves. (why) do people want that?

You can distinguish different types of information that enter your senses. The least obvious, emotional energy, is what your system has been using to decide how to act.
When you see how you react to other peoples emotional energy you can more easily understand why you act the way you do.